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A brutally honest story of adoption told from the heart
By Jenny and Ray on 20 July 2016
My knowledge of adoption was rather basic until I read “Billie’s Kid”. This is one of the most moving true stories that I have ever read. Its author, Steve Tucker, takes the reader with him on his soul-searching journey that touches on the rawest of emotions and sensibilities. Steve, a jazz musician, happy married with two children, knew he was adopted. Always curious about his blood mother, it was the birth of his first child that spurred him on. This seminal book should be required reading for all agencies dealing with every aspect of adoption. For adopters, adoptees and those wishing to search for their biological parents this book is highly recommended.
A must read
By Ann Songhurst on 22 June 2016
Very well written a great help to anyone thinking of searching for birth families . Shows the turmoil felt throughout finding who you are.... the excitement and emotion of seeing your real name for the first time is almost overwhelming ..some people may find the search is all and .they .don't need to meet up . I .felt a feeling of intense sadness throughout the book and so hope Billie's kid has found peace . anyone adopted will relate to parts if not all of .his story thank you for opening up about this subject I,m sure it will help many ,and also throw a light for non adoptees to help understand us .
There is no fairy tale ending but a sense of peace pervades as the answers to a great many questions are uncovered
By Mrs J Owen on 5 June 2016
A fascinating, incisive read whether you are interested in the topic of adoption or not. It held my attention throughout as I shared in the frustrations that Steve went through in his search for his biological parents. There is no fairy tale ending but a sense of peace pervades as the answers to a great many questions are uncovered.
An amazing book!!! A must read!
By Maria on 30 May 2016
I started to read Steve's book and it was so capturing that I couldn't stop until I finish it. It is very powerful and emotional, a must read. It is amazing how things changed over a few decades....from being forced to give your baby for adoption in 1960 to single parents heaven, now....!
As an adoptee it takes a lot of courage to search for your blood parents and I guess a lot of them don't do it because what they don't know it can't hurt them.... But not Steve, he needed answers, he wanted to know that part of his early life!!!!! And he's got more than just answers, he's got an emotional and touching story. A real one!
Thank you for sharing your story with us Steve!
A very personal and honest odyssey
By Nick Wood on 27 May 2016
I was very impressed with this book. It was both entertaining and informative and I feel very privileged to have been taken in by Steve's personal and enlightening Odyssey. The speed at which I read this book is a tribute to the well-paced narrative which made me want to read on and understand what happened next. In style it is chatty, and incredibly observant. Some of the character observations are almost 'Dahlesque' in their attention to detail. But these are not exaggerated to shock or entertain but are open and honest depictions of the family he sought to find. I have never really entertained any thoughts about the adoption process, but have a couple of adopted cousins, one of whom had a negative experience with regard to finding her blood mother. I wish I had been able to read this book sooner which is a recommendation in itself. I also confess it has been passed around various other members of my family. This is a book to be purchased, shared and discussed. Thank you Steve for your commitment and dedication to publish it.
Great writing Steve
By Lesley on 16 May 2016
So far I received my book and started reading it straight away and I am a big fan. Great writing Steve.I am still reading this book. I have recently lost a much beloved friend so its taken me a bit to pick it back up. But yes I am really thrilled at how it is written.
Informative, inspiring and emotional.
By Angela on 11 May 2016
Even though, as a Social Worker, I am familiar with adoption cases I found this book informative and inspiring. It gave a real insight to how a child who has been adopted sees their world and reinforced to me the importance of a sense of identity to personal well being. I will take forward changes to my social work practice from reading this book. Thank you Steve.
A fascinating story about adoption and the adoptee. I ...
By ABC on 8 May 2016
A fascinating story about adoption and the adoptee. I found it interesting, moving and honest. I think it was brave of Steve to publish this book because of how much he bares his soul in it as well as giving his true thoughts on different issues raised during his search. Congratulations Steve on a thought provoking and emotional book.
Powerful and Moving
By Isolda on 28 April 2016
Powerful in its personal disclosure, Billie's Kid is a thought provoking account of an adoptee’s search for his birth family. Tucker does not stint in showing the emotional cost and vulnerability in that search. Billie’s Kid offers an accurate portrait of the past, of the hopelessness of 1960s single mothers and contrasts this with today’s accepting society and adoption process. Never sentimental, and always on pointe, to make the journey with the author, will raise questions for adoptees and non-adoptees about the dynamics of family and expectations of parents.
By Bridget Oliver on 15 April 2016
Steve Tucker was adopted as a tiny baby. He always knew this, but had never been told why his blood parents hadn’t kept him, or, indeed, who they were. It was soon after the birth of his eldest son that Steve was first inspired to look into his past; the baby looked so much like him that Steve began to realise that the comfort and security acquired through family resemblance was something he’d been missing all his life. A few years later at the funeral of his wife’s mother, Steve was struck by the shared features of virtually all his wife’s family; there was no doubt that they all came from the same tribe. And so began Steve’s intensive search for “someone who looks like me” at the age of fifty.
The book is a candid account of Steve’s often painful and confusing experiences from his first tentative steps within the local government adoption services to his first major gathering of a new-found extended family.
I’ve known Steve for many years: our children attended the same schools; we live a few hundred yards from each other; our sons played football together and collected conkers from the same chestnut tree each autumn. But it wasn’t until I read about the forthcoming publication of this book that I knew he was adopted. The initial announcement on Steve’s Facebook page had me intrigued – Steve is well-known in this area as a jazz musician and band leader, so to read that he discovered music and the arts in the lives of both his blood parents was fascinating….I immediately put in an order.
When the book arrived a few weeks later, it went to the top of my to read pile, and then became a page-turner from the outset. Steve explains in great detail the decisions he had to make, his first exciting discoveries, his doubts and anxieties as well as those of his adopted family. He really lays his soul bare and is not afraid to let the reader in on his vulnerabilities. I really appreciated this honesty which made for an extremely gripping and emotive story. For any reader who is adopted, thinking of adopting or considering searching for blood relatives, there is plenty of food for thought and sensible advice within the pages of Billie’s Kid.
Much need answers
By Mrs. J. E. Hurrell on 15 April 2016
It must be a great relief for Steve to have got all his answers. His family, particularly his adoptive parents, must have found his distraction during his stressful time of research and then writing the book to be difficult.. Now that he has got it all down in black and white he and his nearest and dearest will be able to go forward to enjoy their future. Well done Steve for giving us an insight to a situation most of us had no idea about. Definitely an eye-opener!
A very moving book. I have nothing but admiration ...
By James Clemas on 15 April 2016
A very moving book. I have nothing but admiration for the author. Thanks for telling us your story Steve.
An inspirational story of one man's search for his identity
By janwil on 15 April 2016
I was intrigued to pick up Steve's book and read a such an enjoyable account of his life story. Not that I really needed that much encouragement because being being an adult adoptee and of a similar age myself I am currently contemplating many of the same things that Steve has so honestly written about. His style is at times a little raw which helps to connect you to the pain that he felt not only of the events but also revisited in his process of writing, but I'm sure that if you're easily offended or in any way narrow minded it probably isn't a book for you. Steve does nothing more than seek to share his story and the world in which he was born into which at times is unpretty. I can so easily empathise with his early struggles and rejoice in later successes. His perseverance and determination against all odds inspired me. The book should inspire the reader too if they leave aside any prejudice or tendency to judge. Steve is revealed through it as a tender hearted compassionate middle-aged man whose desire to know himself better through his journey of discovering his roots has enriched my life through reading his book.
Truly heartfelt account of Steve's search for his birth parents
By Claire C. on 21 March 2016
I read this book in one sitting, I couldn't put it down. It was an open and deeply moving account of the experience of adoption from two perspectives. One from Steve who was adopted, telling us of his feelings of not quite fitting in and the confusion of loving his adoptive parents, but still feeling the need to find his birth parents. We followed his roller coaster search for answers and felt every minute with him, always wanting to know more. We were then transported back in time to the words of his birth mother and her moving diaries telling the story of how it all happened, her despair of not being able to keep her beloved son and her feeling of helplessness in an unforgiving and prejudiced world, a world where single mothers were institutionalised. Not only is this a deeply moving book, it is social history told in the words of personal experience.
Only time will resolve how good or bad your choice of enquiry routes might have ...
By Terry Williams on 16 March 2016
Steve, I think you have been very deeply honest and detailed taking me into a world unknown to me. It is a thorough work of detection and I wonder if you should have tried your hand at police work sometime. Life can be strange in many ways for all of us and in your case there are many up and down hills. I'm not sure about the feelings of your families regarding your persistence in continuing along certain avenues in some parts but do believe this caused you concern and your having to make difficult decisions. Only time will resolve how good or bad your choice of enquiry routes might have been. Your book will be of great assistance to those in a similar situation as yours and your inclusion of the past and current legal status made a lot of sense. I didn't agree with the bad language but do understand how frustrating a search for what appears to be impossible can be. I wish you well, great success with your book and hope that it has given you great satisfaction, clarity and conclusion in a large chapter of your life. Best Wishes, Terry
Excellent what can I say
By Julie on 12 March 2016
Excellent what can I say , as adoptee my self I was reading bits in my own life which brought great memories back to me well worth a read , still on my journey but it's just fab piece of work what Steve,s put magnificently together as he went on his journey.
Beautifully written book on Adoption
By Maggie Peplow on 12 March 2016
This is an absolute must read for all adoptees and adopters and indeed anyone interested in the subject of adoption. On the surface Steve appears to have it all - he was adopted by a loving couple unable to have children of their own, who were fairly comfortably off. He is now in a very happy marriage with two children, living in Devon and making his living as a jazz musician. It all sounds idyllic but Steve has issues, problems at school followed by troubled teenage years when he left home. Pushing fifty he decides to try and trace his blood family, perhaps they can solve these issues - what was his first family like and who does he look like, where did he get his musical talent? The more he looks the more questions arise - will they still be alive and if so will they resent his search and perhaps even more daunting - how will his real family react to the search? It gives you a first hand insight into the mind of an adopted person, which perhaps those of us who grew up with our own family may never have considered. I will leave you to read this wonderful book and see for yourself if Steve finds the answers he is so desperately seeking. I suggest you keep a box of tissues handy too.
How times have changed!
By Hazja on 11 December 2015
An amazing insight into the thoughts and life of an adult searching for answers to his origins. As a fellow adoptee and a friend I can empathise with Steve. I have been "found" by a full brother and discovered we have various half siblings and my background is certainly less flamboyant!. Interesting to see how the music gene gets passed on for both of us,!
A brilliantly written book...told from the heart showing how brave Steve was to delve into the unknown and pursue his quest.....even if it wasn't what he was expecting or wanting.
A tear jerker in places but impossible to put down. Steve's a natural writer and this book is a real eye opener to the lives of unmarried mothers in the late 50s and 60s.
A true and honest account of the writers feelings - ...
By Huggs 24 on 5 November 2015
A true and honest account of the writers feelings - The journey an adoptee takes and the feelings they deal with.
Exploring new concepts despite some disapproval from his adopted family the desire to find out more about his birth parents over rides those feelings from his adopted parents.
I guess we all need to know where are roots are.
Who am I?
By Paul Jewels on 22 October 2015
An amazing story of a boy growing up in a wonderful loving family but searching for his genetic connections. There are strong emotional elements with moments of hurt, anger and frustration mixed with confusion and isolation. It is written from the heart and is a must read for both an adopted person and like myself someone who is an adoptive Dad. It is an honest reflection of a very personal story. Amazingly told!
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